Mothers day cards when you don't have the world's best mum
All the cards are so sickly sweet. Where are the cards for individuals who acknowledge the existence of their mother, but don't reckon the sun shines out of her arse?
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Mother, have a day.
"Have a rest of your day!"
Get a blank card and write your own message inside. That way you can choose the image and convey your feelings.
To one of the mothers in the world
Same issue on Father’s Day when your dad isn’t a flatulent alcoholic that loves football.
Son?
My Dad is a recovering alcoholic who doesn't like fishing or vintage cars, so finding a card is a nightmare!
Or fishing? My grandfather loved to spend time at the gun range. There was never anything that wasn’t some flowery poetry or “thanks to the man who always took me fishing.” I don’t even know how to fish, but I’m an ok shot, because Grandpa taught me.
I just get her a card I know she'll like, and write a message I know she'll think is nice. It doesn't matter if I actually mean the things I say in the card, it's all about placating her and giving her what she expects. If it was upto me, I wouldn't send a card, but I've done ...
This is what I do, but I go the e-card route.
Pretty, blank-inside card. Handwritten note: "Wishing You a Happy Mother's Day! Cheers, Name" 🤣
Yup, can 100% relate. Keeping the peace is the aim of the game - it's just hard work sometimes.
Thank you for a business-like birth experience, and a satisfactory childhood. I wish you no specific harm in the years ahead. Yours sincerely, Progeny
\- Raymond Holt
Find one that says, You've been almost like a mother to me.
Oh that's colder than a night out in Newcastle in February
I just want to say, over the years I've come to regard you as...someone I...met.
The "like a mother" card for your own mother is *chef's kiss*. You could put the little "^almost" in your own hand.
My brother and I flipped it on its head and went out of our way to find the most saccharine, over the top card we could get. It might not have been accurate but it made us laugh.
Just draw a little /s on the inside.
I did this too! But he really did believe he was a good father - and that "we have had such wonderful times, and share lovely memories....." (ugh) Only seen him three times this century.
What I like to do for Christmas when all the cards are cheesy or religious is just buy a generic art card that isn't specifically for any occasion and use that.
What I do at Christmas is send none at all. Don't begrudge Mother's / Father's Day as I know there comes a point when I won't as they are both in their late 70's now, but Christmas cards are a waste of time, especially posting them.
Buy a plainish card with a feminine theme, the sort you write anything on, and put Happy Mothers Day inside it. Sorry yours is a bit shit. I'm an orphan don't know what's worse.
I'm so sorry you've had to go through this. It's heartbreaking.
Children of absent or abusive parents unite
r/raisedbynarcissists
Make your own: "I survived 18 years of your ''care' so thanks I guess"
"Thanks for letting me fall out of you." That's about as big a sentiment I can offer my mother.
It kind of sounds like you dropped out of her fanny head first to the ground, which is really not that nice of her and maybe she doesn’t deserve a thank you for that.
We need a Dwight style "it is mother's day" basic card
25p Asda card says Happy Mother’s Day
Tesco did a ‘Tesco value’ one that was white wi the the blue stripes lol
Yes the ones where the card is thin and bends so much that it flops over🤣
I always struggle to lie with these things. Words have meaning. So like this year's card is 'Have a Marvelous Mothers Day' and inside reads 'You're a fab Mum'. Which she is, just not to me. Play with the semantics.
Wildlife ones are usually pretty neutral. Just write your own greeting inside.
Make sure it’s not an elephant pictured. Or a crocodile. Although, now I mention it…
As a younger sibling, I cop out by opting for whichever card jokes about “at least you got it right eventually!”. My brother did nothing to deserve these shots, but I just cant bring myself to go for the sickly cards.
Happy Mother’s Day. I just about tolerate you. Love pippym I wish there were cards like this too!
My mum and I are actually the best of friends as adults, but she was an alcoholic throughout my teens and I can never bring myself to buy anything alluding to her being the “best mum ever” etc. I usually pick something pretty/stylish with minimal wording - bonus points for a b...
Does it actually matter? I don't no think anyone really reads a poem on a card and think that reflects the gifters unwritten feelings. If you can find a Scribbler shop near you, they tend to have loads of 'lol it's wine o'clock' style edgy cards.
It matters. I want to give a card that's truthful. I'm sure my mum would feel weird if she couldn't believe the message in a card given to her. If you didn't feel like a marvellous mother, wouldn't you feel worse if you got a shop-bought card that said you were?
You haven't met my ex wife and mother of my children She will deconstruct every sentence looking for fault or a slight. She screamed at my teenage son last year for getting a birthday card that literally just said "Happy birthday mum" as it had no verse in it and meant nothing
Just buy a blank card and write your own greeting. I just keep a few of them in the house and use them for everything.
Likewise. I get them from the local charity shops too.
Yeah, my mother is pretty sub-par as a parent. She abandoned us when we were kids, literally left me and my sister somewhere we'd never been before with strangers then never saw/heard from/was acknowledged by her until my later teenage years. Still treated us, me at least, lik...
I get it. I was r/raisedbynarcissists and guilt tripped to heck
They have ones in the Tesco express near me that have no writing, just pics like a flower or some plant artwork, you can just find something like that?
I once - in all innocence - sent my mother a card that was from a Barnardo's shop (for children, or whatever their purpose is); she went ballistic, telling me that I was making some kind of point. I honestly wasn't. (She did "lose custody" of me when I was three - prior to ...
she took offense at you supporting a charity by buying a card from their collection?
I always opt for one that says "it is mother's day" or similar. Next year I might make one rather than spending THREE POUNDS on one
Just don't send one and blame the post. I did this for a few years before finally going non contact. No longer with us, what a shame.
Send her a “happy Father’s Day” card instead.
My partner once bought his mum a card with ‘you’re like a mother to me’ on the front. He says it wasn’t intentional but seemed quite an apt act of passive aggressiveness when she was ‘mother adjacent’ rather than an actual loving Mum for most of his life
I tend to look for a jokey one. Usually pointing out how great I am
We have horses so mine this year says ‘Happy Mother’s Neigh’ and I think it’s perfect without being over the top
How can they all be the best mum in the world. Somebody's lying!
“Happy Mother’s Day. I wish you would do less. You cannot have a key to my house.” The 36-year-old son of an overbearing, infantilizing helicopter mum.
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Insert "At least you tried" cake ☺️
Try Thortful,they have a good range.
Don’t get a mother day card Get a best wishes card and write happy mothers day in it
I'm having a really hard time today because I'm estranged from my mother. Tomorrow will be even worse, because we're going to a nice pub with extended in-laws to celebrate all the mothers. Partly it's hard because people with good mothers, particularly those who have lost go...
This! I have this conversation with my husband every year. She's the mum I have, but I find it super difficult to find a card without all the OTT stuff.
As a mother myself I can’t get one that says “best mum ever” for my mum (although I’m extremely lucky, she truly is great). I just feel this would call my own position in the Mum Rankings into question
I managed to find one that had the word lovely on it only once and went with that. There are too few cards that read "You have been obliged"
I assume those people simply wouldn’t bother with a card.
You can't not bother. The least worst option is to keep the peace.
That would be the worst thing to do. These people will burn the world down if they felt slighted.
The last time I gave my mother a mother's day card was when I'd been forced to make one in infants school more than 30 years ago
Make your own.
It’s the same for me, but with my dad. I try to get the plainest card going with as little writing on the inside. It makes me cringe reading what’s on some of them.
Buy my cards at M&S you pay a bit more and only have a small selection but they tend not to 8 verses of gushy shite inside.
I have this too - the ‘best mum ever’ type cards make me uncomfortable, because she’s not. I get the cards that just say, Happy Mothers’ Day have a nice design and write something pleasant and generic inside.
Just get a blank card a write what you want in it …
I do have a brilliant mum,but she doesnt really like anything very sentimental,so i buy her a lovely art card thats blank inside and write my message. X
I have this thought every year. I now buy a generic floral card, blank inside and just write "Happy mothers day". She has never commented and it satisfies my need to send a card without the assumption she was the " worlds best mum"
My husband chose the cards and gifts, my kids wrote them and I got the compulsory negative comment on my body during the drop off. All done the day before so I can hop over to the in-laws, get given wine and then spend Sunday how I want in peace 👍
I have a great relationship with my mum but am absolutely not a sickly sweet person, and never have any trouble picking up a simple one that just says Happy Mother's Day on it and doesn't have a vomit-inducing verse inside. Got one in Oliver Bonas this year - completely blank ...
Happy Mothering Sunday with a simple bunch of flowers on the front with a blank inside. That’s all you need.
that's exactly what I bought
^(Without you my life would be the) #BEST ^(Unfortunately, you're the worst) #MOM #EVER ##Happy Mother's Day
Cartoon cards - pick something funny, or art cards.
Just get one with flowers on
Is it important that you get her a card at all?
Not sending a card is the equivalent in her mind to putting dog shit through her letter box.
I find cards that don't say anything but have a cute dog or something on the front useful for these situations
There's one in Sainsburys about not walking barefoot with a picture of lego on it.
Just get one of those arty cards with a bouquet on the front but is plain inside.
Get a blank generic card with baby ducklings or flowers on and write"happy mother's day" in it yourself and call it a day
Could you pick up a blank inside card with flowers or a bouquet on the front? Or a blank inside with a countryside scene?
“Thanks for everything you’ve taught me”
You get a shitty cheap one from Card Factory and write 'Alright mum. Thanks for not having a miscarriage.'
I was literally saying to my sister the other day I don't see the point in mother's/fathers day. I don't have a great relationship with either of them, and I only really talk to them because I live with them because we are saving to buy a house :,) I know my mum would be offe...
My sister and I have been talking about creating a card company for this exact purpose Just like a “happy Mother’s Day!” Card nothing sappy, nothing “to our mum…”
Blank card with something neutral on the front: "thinking of you on this mother's day" It's not a lie, but it's also not sickly sweet.
Make your own card! I use moonpig
Fuck greeting cards
You know you don’t have to send a card right?
I send exactly 1 card a year at xmas to friends of mine that live abroad and I only see once a year if I'm lucky, and tbh that's only because I know his wife appreciates it, he couldn't care less. The whole card industry is build on guilt tripping well meaning people, the soo...
Photo card of a kitten or something, blank inside. Empty.
There are funny ones on Moonpig and Thortful
Card Factory do some plain ones!
And where are the cards for the poor fucking daughter who cares for her mother and does absolutely everything for her but does not even want to acknowledge this day because she's exhausted and full of resentment for said mother. Is it compulsory to do something? Ugh.
Those blank cards for notes
Buy mine online from places like thortful. Never buy nice ones, normally just ones that say how great I am or how rubbish my sister is 👌🏻
Funky Pigeon has some very generic / simple cards. You can edit many of them to say what you want as well.
I got a bunch from etsy for various useless family members. Things like 'I'm forever buying bloody cards, this one's yours'... 'standard greeting card'... 'seasonal wishes'... 'For You'. Some a literally black and white text in Arial font on card, some have a clip art of a flo...
I get all sorts on Father's Day, the best one being a blowup Zimmer frame.
dare you to make a "worlds most average mum" card
My partner has a nebulous relationship with his nan and her (deceased) daughter. She's pretty horrible and cutting, as well as racist. I wrote the mother's day card for us jointly today: "Dearest X, I hope your mother's day is full with the warmth, kindness, and love you give ...
For me, I sign it from the cats too as she is like a mother to them thankfully so the sentiment is real.
I got one that said happy mother's day. I then signed my name
I just buy the blank generic ones and put nothing in them
I usually try and find one that is left blank inside and just says “happy Mother’s Day” or is just a nice image on the front. I have a bit of a complicated relationship with my mum and so don’t like to go super sickly sweet telling her she’s the “best mum ever” because she’s n...
I used to get the ones that simply said Happy Mothers day.
Just a neutral card with a flower or bouquet on the front? And no pre-written lines. I’ve seen nice ones at Marks And inside you simply write *Happy Mother’s Day* *Matt the Piano Man*
They do card that are plain inside too
You're a mother like no other! ^((fortunately)^)
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Happy Mother’s Day! From, your son/daughter
Do they no longer do the Asda smart price cards?
I always make one. Temu diamond art or an easy watercolor flower then I can write something that works
There's a Tesco Value one for 50p
This is what Moonpig is for, surely?
The pain of being from the Black Country where we say “mom” but all of the cards say “mum”.
Same problem in Brum too!
Sending hugs x
Reminds me of the Hilary Mantel book ‘Every day is mothers day’
I have the same with Father's day cards. I can usually just about manage to find one which just says 'Happy Fathers Day', with something like 'Thinking of you' or similarly non-committal inside. It's a rough search though, I sympathise.
Get a blank card with an animal on the front.
Or when your mum is actually a step- mum who you've never called mum or thought of as a mum ( no affection or sentimentality) but you want to let her know you appreciate the practical, supportive role she has played in your life
There's a 'this card will do' one on Amazon...I know because that's what I've bought
I think you should send cards to someone else’s mum just to confuse them
Find the "blank" cards and take your pick, there are plenty available with no specific sentiment whatsoever.
Man that’s a tough one. I sincerely hope you better times with your mum and I also wish your mum better time with her child.
Tricky, but why not get a lovely blank card and write inside “Happy Mother’s Day. My sincere thanks for giving birth to me, providing shelter and sustenance till adulthood and then letting me get on with my life. Tepidly yours, Op.”
I used to get mine one of those art or photography cards that are blank inside and then write something that felt like it wasn't lying but was enough to get me through the day
I just find one that’s either a bit funny, or nice but not over the top. Like this years said “you may be many miles away but here’s to wishing you an awesome Mother’s Day” straight to the point and truthful.
[https://www.thecuriouspancake.co.uk/collections/mothers-day](https://www.thecuriouspancake.co.uk/collections/mothers-day)
They're called text messages
Oh I completely understand this when trying to choose cards for my mum 😬
Look on amazon for cards that just say happy mothers day.
Moonpig? You can add your own suitable comments inside
The best one I ever saw was "I am the person I am today because of you" But the meaning was quite different to how it was intended I suspect....
I hate most cards made for occasions. Just buy beautiful cards and write what you mean
I had that problem when I was married to my first husband. We found his birth mother. Hallmark doesn't make "thanks for not having an abortion" cards.
You don't have to, because it's not Mother's Day (12th May). Mothering Sunday (tomorrow) is a Christian tradition where you go to your "mother church" during Lent. It really irritates me how shops have co-opted yet another holiday to sell us tat, especially as they're double...
Yeah, I fucking hate it. My mum is great. I love her. But neither of us like the wishy washy overly-sentimental crap they put on cards.
I just try to buy a card that only says happy Mother’s Day with no other notes inside, tricky to find! Sorry about the shit mum situation, I can relate
Write the card to keep the peace but then reach out to a parent or parent figure you really respect and tell them they’re doing a great job
I have the same for my dad. I always get one of those cards with a nice image, national geographic type animal photo or similar but it's blank inside.
Just get a plain one with flowers or some shite on … I used to have the same problem , mine upped and went off with her affair partner when I was around 4 and left me with my dad who brought me up she moved up north we were in Dorset and didn’t see her for 10 yrs , when she fi...
I bought my mum a card that had a cartoon picture of a guy on the loo, browsing on his phone, with the tagline "this is me, looking for your mothers day card" Not because she's terrible or not a great mum. Just the opposite. But she knows I don't do smushy crap when it co...
I used to look for cards for my mother like that when she was alive. Acknowledging that she was my mother but not getting sentimental. They are difficult to locate.
Blank card with flowers or watercolours of animals are my go to - my mums great, but the cards are so OTT or tacky.
I have to spend so long hunting for my grandmother as hallmark refuse to make one that says i understand your trauma made you pretty shitty but I try not to hold it against you so I’ll send you a card.
I've long thought there need to be cards that fulfil the obligation, but aren't too gushy. Not everyone had great parents sadly, and I begrudge getting a "best mum ever, you were always there for me, blah blah" card when it's not true. Lately I've been just finding pop-up, 3D ...
You are a mother. Have a nice day.
Thortful worked for me: there's a good range and having had issues with both parents, I always found something that they'd like, bit didn't overinflate their parenting skills!
I don't think we should have to 'celebrate' Mother's Day once we enter adulthood. I know some women who didn't have great mums and are now mothers themselves of babies/toddlers, yet their mums still expect them to drop it all and take them (and sometimes grandma too?!) out for...
Your mum will care about you when no one else will.
You're assuming a lot there
I got a card that says, one of a kind. She can take it as she wants.
I love my mum, always had a great relationship with her Mothers Day is yet another manufactured holiday to sell more cards and whatever other plastic crap they're punting that week. Never engaged with it. Same process as valentines day, fathers day, basically any """holiday""...
I got one for my MIL and it says something like A good mother lets her child lick the beaters. A great mother turns the electric whisk off first. I like my MIL. My mum's getting something shoddily handmade that took a couple of hours and is a long way off perfect.
I understand. Just pick one.
POW! Supermum
Just buy a blank card. Inside you can write thanks for being adequate.
Make one that says "To an adequate Mum, you're not great, but I made it to adulthood, so thanks, I guess" and then give her, I dunno, a box of tic tacs and a thumbs up (Editing to add, I realised I assumed you're an adult, basically the thought of any minors on reddit kinda h...
I havent got my mother a card. I cant find one that simply says "it is mothers day and you are my mother" so she gets a candle and box of chocolate wrapped in snowman wrapping paper! She wont be happy with this, she never is!
Tesco - on the front it says ‘On Mothering Sunday’ , blank inside, costs £1. Haven’t bought it, just seen it.
I have this exact issue when it comes to a Dad that isn't 'World's Best Dad'. Makes it very difficult to just pick up a card as its usually 'thanks for always being there' or 'you are the greatest man I know'. I tend to go with just a simple 'Happy Fathers Day' card or a jok...
I didn't have that problem with my mother, but she did have a sense of humour. I got her a card from Asda which read, Happy Mother's Day to one of my favourite parents. Maybe buy a blank card.
I think they should do a card that says to the incubator or happy incubator day or thank you for being my incubator 🤣🤣🤣
I don't call my mother "mum", so that rules out 80% of cards. I also think we both know that twee rhymes or professions of love aren't an honest representation of our relationship. So that leaves just a handful of card designs each year. On some level I envy people who have a ...
Of all the mums in the world, you are mine. You are a perfectly adequate mother.
For my birthday, my mum (with whom i have a good relationship) sent me a 'thinking of you', so maybe you could do the same?
Wishing you the Mother's Day you deserve...