Unpopular opinion: Seeing your ex adjust for the better is awful
Genuinely I don't feel there's anything worse than being treated like crap by your partner and then they come back when you're happy and are actually a decent person. I'll die on this hill. This gotta be toxic or something Showing me what I wanted the WHOLE time while we were together when I've finally moved on. (you never truly do) For real one of the worst mind fucks ever
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YUP. Personally, I think it’s even worse when they treat the new girl (or guy) like royalty when they were fucking your life up and stringing you along every chance they got. Like, what makes this new person worthy of love and kindness and commitment but not me…
This is why I am so happy my ex blocked me on everything, like mass erased me. At the time it hurt like hell, but now, thanks to his persistent with it, I've missed out on his whole glow up chapter. The last time I saw him, despite being mentally at breaking point, he was phys...
You don't often see what goes on behind the scenes. Many abusive relationships seem perfectly normal and loving to the outside world.
Just wait. The façade will eventually crack.
Not always. People change throughout their entire life.
The “new” facade did indeed crack.
Exactly. They never change. In fact they always get worse.
It’s like every ex I’ve been with I basically trained them how to be a better boyfriend for someone else. Lmfao. It sucks but that’s life. Just consider if they really did change maybe you had something to do with it and you were meant to be in their life but not meant to be t...
I know it’s kind of not the viewpoint you guys are looking for but, what if that person saw what they did wrong and corrected course? I don’t know, maybe people get better? It does feel great to see an ex suffer in life as they deserve to, but on the other hand, aren’t we all ...
This can be true, too. Especially if you were younger when you dated and they still had growing up to do. Also, some couples just aren’t compatible and it might not be either person’s fault. So when you break up, you’re seeing the side of them that you didn’t get to see becaus...
It’s not like I want them to genuinely suffer once I’m gone. It’s the fact that they changed but wouldn’t change for me.
living well is the best revenge. Focus on you.
It’s fake. Obviously they’re going to be on their best behavior when they’re around you. They want to impress you.
I just don’t see a point in keeping in touch an ex, unless you have kids together. Why worry or care about what’s going on in their life? They were part of a chapter in your life that’s now over. They’re a different person now, and so are you. Especially if it’s been years.
Eh, sometimes you might make crappy romantic partners but great friends. It’s okay to still care about someone even if you’re not interested in being with them anymore. Of course, there’s a limit to that, but I see nothing wrong with remaining cordial.
I am pretty sure that is an illusion. It just looks better when you are not with them anymore. The secret is just not to look behind the curtain the 2nd time. Haha.
They just didn't fuck it up yet with the new person.
I think it’s usually that they just look better from the outside but are still the same shit show underneath. At least that’s my experience.
Yeah….I spun the block again and this is true. I should’ve known it was fake.
This is why you make a clean cut.
I can relate, my ex told his current gf that he lost feelings for me a year into the relationship (we were together for 2 years) And yeah he also is giving her everything I ever wanted (except for having kids), flowers every week, they live together, everytime he makes a mis...
That was my ex in a nutshell. She was genuinely a piece of shit (went to jail, cheated, emotionally manipulative, etc.) But flash forward years later and she seems somewhat normal now.
I mean, I don't agree with you, but then, I'm still friends with my exes. Our circumstances differ.
I agree it sucks to see they were just being a dick on purpose to you but if they’ve like genuinely changed their life around, I think that’s a plus because now you don’t have to deal with an as messy ex lol
Sorry
Loving them soo much and watching them change for the worst now that’s something that’ll change you!
I feel for you, this happened with one of my exes, but at the same time I don't think it makes them toxic. Breakups and life changes people and breaking up with you might have been something that made them reflect on themselves. I'm not saying that is the case but it's somethi...
Agreed, I’ve fortunately never experienced this as the ex’s true colors exposed themselves immediately. Hunch tells me the presentation your ex is putting on is fake to have the effect on you it’s currently having, the truth will come out eventually.
I hear your frustration and get it. But I also like to think of that as confirmation that people can choose to be better and grow. I really hope I’m a better person today than 30 years ago. I certainly have worked hard to be. That’s who they were then. This is who they are...
A bad relationship brings out bad qualities from both sides. My ex would tell you I was an asshole, but she would leave out the part where she constantly accused me of cheating (never did), verbally abused me often, had intense anger issues, and various other things that ate a...
Sometimes people bring out the worst in each other, but it doesn't make them overall bad people, it just makes them bad for each other. My dad and sister were like that. They were much better people not being around each other, but when they got together it was awful. I thi...
It makes me happy to see an ex partner do well in life because it makes me feel like I maybe had a positive impact on the rest of their life. Or it’s proof that you both truly weren’t compatible. Or it’s both.
Yeah it's pretty toxic of you to not want to see someone change for the better
Richard Pryor did a classic routine on this: '*When Your Woman Leaves You*'
Oh my go to thought was always “why not me?” Or “it could have been me” like overthinking why he’s not like this when with me. It ‘s a neverending hole i like to dig myself into. Now i just dont care and dont bother to know about my ex