Restraining order on a student EXPERIENCE
So at the moment I have a family that is going overboard. Mom claims she has video of me saying things and doing things that aren't true. Twisting my words from stories her daughter gives her. Coming to the school and walking on campus without checking in to harass me. I'm thinking I should file a civil restraining order on the mom and child. I think that will make mom exit me alone and they would have to relocate daughter to another class. Does anybody have any advice for a situation like this? TIA
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I'm more alarmed the mother was able to get in without being checked in , in some sort of fashion...that would be a very big deal here.
A school should be a sanctuary, not an open field for harassment.
Super easy to do in a lot of schools in many parts of the world. I live in New Zealand and the school I teach at is a wide open campus. There no fence and multiple entrances. Anyone could easily wander in.
I agree. I was verbally attacked after school while helping student by a mom who DID check in but lied about having an appointment with me. Admin needs to get involved and ban her from roaming the halls and ambushing staff. If she needs an escort or a admin supervised confer...
Escalate to your schools administration with a giant 'what the hell guys'. Document everything. Make sure you use the words "I fear for my safety". A senior level of staff needs to review whatever claim is being made and make it crystal clear her behavior was unacceptable....
Then contact your union for support if needed.
2 events possibly 3. The first was a very threatening phone call. 2nd mom and daughter showed up to an event. Now they were supposed to since it was a school band event but mom did mention words that other teachers overheard about this is a scam, a set up, now I have them on v...
I’d speak to a lawyer. The student has a legal right to an education which might be held above your right to have a job at that school. That will depend on if you are at a district, private, or school of choice. I’d think you might has a chance with the mom, but probably not...
I would for sure do this. Last year a family filed a bogus restraining order against a teacher and that teacher wasn’t allowed to to return to work until he went to court an a judge dismissed it, because the children had a right to an education.
The mom is stalking and likely broke the law (if in the US) if they didn’t check in. So yeah, restraining order. The daughter can go to another class and the school can update their freaking security protocols.
Yeah. Sorry you are going through this. In this situation remember these words: cover your butt. Documentation is your best friend. Write down every incident. Dates, times, what was said, where it happened, who witnessed it. Never ever ever meet with this parent alone again. A...
Absolutely go the legal route, atp.
1. I would be documenting everything. Everything you can remember with dates, times, and words as best as you can remember. 2. You need to go to admin. This kid is in your class, so unless she’s 18, you’re going to be obligated to talk to parents. 3. Admin can advise you on ...
When a parent is this difficult, communication can be through an administrator. If I had to communicate directly with a parent in this situation , it would be on paper and sent home with the student or mailed. Anything else would have to be to an administrator.
Contact you union, your admin, your campus security and a lawyer.
The parent end seems to be the start here and i agree, unless the kid is actively doing something against you they just want to come to school just like you want to come to work.
Yeah but they are twisting stories to get mom offensive. Then mom says the child recorded me without my consent.
You didnt mention your principal. Are they aware? What have they said?
They are aware and the principal's words were I take care of my teachers. Well what does that mean?
Do you belong to a union? They have a legal department. Otherwise you have the rights to do this to protect yourself if you feel unsafe.
I filed a restraining order against a student for threats he was making outside of school. It went through and created an absolute fiasco. My boss was pissed, as you might imagine. It should be much more straightforward to do one on mom.
Oh my gosh. I am going through the (almost) exact same situation. I am a high school ESE teacher and a student and her parents have been harassing me all year and it has gotten completely out of hand. I truly don't know why this family has it out for me. I have zero interact...
I appreciate you words and support. One of the biggest reasons why I want to fight this situation is I want everyone to know THE GOOD GUYS DONT HIDE. I teach this to my students and I have to do it to. NO BULLIES! Us teachers need to support each other.
File the restraining order ASAP!!
Do exactly what you just said you wanted to do. This is 2026 America, dont play with your life like that. Keep everything recorded if you can and get her out and report them for harassment. Don't waste a moment, dont waste a minute.
Don't child protection rules prevent teachers from recording students? I would get in big trouble for this!
What are you being accused of?
Half truths.
The exact same thing is happening to me.
That's why teachers need to help each other out
You need to tell admin ASAP if they are not aware and, if you feel admin is not doing enough, go over their heads to the district leadership. We have had similar crazy parents at our school. Thankfully our admin is on top of it and has gotten the district's legal team involve...
Tell the mom that if she doesn't like the way you teach, then she can take her kid and go somewhere else.
Here is the funny part...Mom says that the kid says I'm her favorite teacher.
I’d talk to the admin about no trespassing mom or a restraining order AND having student moved to a different class